Love happens at its own time, place and speed without being discriminatory. It seeks no permission from the available hearts in its theatre before binding them together. Love can be callous sometimes for it binds even the unwilling with the willing making one party suffer in the mix. Could it be said that cupid’s arrow strays in the busy-ness of getting more people engaged in that beautiful state of emotion.
As fortunate as it is to fall in love, staying in love is another reality struggle on its own. That thin invisible line between love and hate is easily compromised by different levels of insensitivity born out of the cowardice of pride.
Hidden under and within the flamboyant and show-full environment of pride, so invisible, so stubborn, reckless in calculation, simply identified as cowardice the master of love compromise.
Cowardice simple put is the deficiency of bravery. It takes form as a mental stimulation of excessive fear or doubt which then prevents an individual from confronting difficult tasks; like exploring humility, expressing affection, apologizing when at fault, accepting apology when one is tendered, not taking someone for granted, conquering self-righteousness, and being practically vocal with ones feelings they way one actually wants to be attended to.
Cowardice of Pride in love compromises an individual’s ability to express deep feeling in love for the false notion that one’s partner will take one for granted or the preservation of self ego.
Sometimes we attribute the all knowing and all seeing status to our partners because of our irresponsible positions of not coming through with clear communication in love. Meanwhile we know how to boldly excuse ourselves from such elevated office of all knowing and all seeing because we are lost and can’t understand where we stand in love with someone because of the loss in communication engineered by the high spirit of cowardice.
Let us learn the love saving culture of staying in love when we are fortunate to be bound in one. Let us appraise the daily growth of our relationship and improve on our appreciation and support for one another. Let us rise in conquest over this master compromiser, let us overcome the cowardice of pride in love.
May a legitimate opportunity for your celebration be made manifest through grace.
Ya diri anyi nma!!! (It shall be well with us)
Ikenga Jonjude Okere
